With the holidays upon us, this time of year can be especially stressful for anyone who has been through a divorce. Even for those who have been divorced for years, the holidays are challenging because this is when we traditionally spend time with our families. For divorced parents, the separation from children in addition to the absence of a spouse can really sting. That’s why if you’re going to have the best post-divorce holiday ever, you need a plan. Here’s what you should do.
1. Plan Custody Arrangements.
If you and your former spouse are sharing custody, it’s possible that you might get to have your children for only part of the holiday. It’s important to read your custody order to determine when you’re supposed to get your children and when they are due back to the other parent. Once you know what custodial rights you have for holidays, talk to, e-mail or text your former spouse to solidify details.
Make sure to keep your conversation and tone cordial when you’re communicating with the other parent. Create a plan for how and when you will get to see the children for the holiday. Then, once you know when you’ll see your children, you can start planning.
2. It’s a Whole New Holiday. What Do You Want to Do?
Big life changes call for big holiday changes. Make sure that your new holiday celebration accurately reflects exactly what you want and what makes you happy. Gone are the days of doing things because you’re outvoted or because it’s tradition.
Now is a time for new traditions. Make it happen.
3. Go Out.
There’s only one steadfast rule to ensure you have the best post-divorce holiday ever – go out. Even if you don’t want to, you have to leave the house. Whether you make plans to visit with friends, eat with family, or volunteer in a food kitchen; it will benefit you to leave the house.
4. Take Care of Yourself.
Holidays are a very stressful time of year for all people, so now is an especially important time to practice self-care. One of the best things you can do for your physical, mental, and emotional health is to stay rested. Take naps on the weekends and try to relax after work. Make sure you get enough sleep at night, and don’t be afraid to go to bed early on nights where you feel particularly tired.
5. Ask for Help.
If you start to feel especially stressed about your divorce, get help. There are qualified therapists, counselors, and support groups everywhere ready and willing to help you out.
If you need help with any family law issues in Texas, we can help. Whether you’re planning on a divorce or you need to modify your child custody arrangement, our attorneys can help. Give us a call today at (713) 352-3506 or contact us online to learn how we can help you today!
